Grace in the Mess: Navigating Life with Faith and Hormones!

Welcome to Grace in the Mess, a space where we embrace the beautiful, chaotic journey of womanhood, especially those of us navigating the unique challenges of a certain age. Here, you'll find a judgment-free zone to explore hormone changes, life shifts, and all the "feelings" that come with them, all while leaning on the Word of God.

Who we are and what we believe

My goal is to share my faith with women of a certain age who might be feeling angry, sad, lonely, crazy, overwhelmed, or unappreciated. These are feelings that often accompany hormone and life changes, and sometimes, it feels like no one truly understands.

This platform is designed to be a safe haven where you can share your thoughts and feelings without judgment. We will continually turn to the Word of God as our guide and strength, knowing that His grace is always sufficient to see us through any challenging times.

Our latest insights and reflections

Let me introduce myself

Jun 29, 2026 6:49 PM

My name is Stefanie. I am a 48 year old pastor's wife, mother to two grown children and a bonus daughter and Nona to two grandchildren. My life, recently, has been a hot mess. I have been struggling with perimenopause and most days feel like I am going crazy. I have never felt so out of control when it comes to how my body is feeling. Today the struggle was difficult. I broke down. I couldn't take all the feelings that were swirling in my mind and body. A wonderful co-worker of mine suggested that I find something to do outside of my family, church and job. Something of my own. I thought about taking up a hobby (crocheting sounds extremely intriguing) and still might, but God let me know that it was important to share my faith through these difficult times.

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It's Been a While - Let's catch up

July 14, 2026

I must say that it has been a while since I have taken a break to collect my thoughts. I find when I have so much going on, I l lose track of taking time for me. I have made some changes lately that seem to be helping me. I am on a phone fast. No phone when I get home in the evenings and no phones after 5 pm on the weekends. During this process, I discovered that I  was addicted to my phone. I would spend two or three hours (maybe more if I must admit it) on my phone. The first night, I had withdrawals. I couldn't sleep and my first thought was to pick up my phone. Sleeping was difficult and I was a bit moody. However, I survived the night. I fill the time before bed and getting up in the morning praying. I'm not good at it right now. Over the last few years I have drifted away from God. Understand this, He did not leave me, I drifted from Him and created this distance. I find myself in a better mood all around. I have peace and joy, and I find myself smiling more. I know that the more I draw near to God, prayer will come easy again. I challenge any of you who spends more than an hour on your phone to take a break from it. If you find that your first thought when you sit down is, "Let's see what is happening on FB, Instagram, etc.", you probably have a problem like me. Find something else to fill your time. Read your bible. Read a book. Paint, knit, whatever works for you and see how different you feel. God bless you all and let me know what your thoughts are on this. 

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